5 Essential Networking Tips: How to Connect with Confidence
Networking can feel very intimidating to many, yet it is one of the best ways to meet others and grow professionally. Just the thought of walking into a room full of strangers, subconsciously feeling the pressure to make connections, and trying to start that polite small talk, can feel overwhelming and scary. But with the right mindset and etiquette, networking becomes one of the most rewarding parts of social and professional growth.
During my personal etiquette training with Myka Meier (Founder of Beaumont Etiquette) and William Hanson (Director of The English Manner), I learned the most approachable way to network, one that blends confidence, respect, and strategy. Those lessons have become a cornerstone of The Etiquette Method, where I now help others develop networking skills that truly make a difference.
1. Prepare before you show up
Successful networking starts with preparation. It is a form of respect not just towards others but also for yourself. Do the research beforehand on the event, possible attendees, and think of your intention for the event. Prepare a couple of engaging conversation starters, relevant topics you may want to use, and be sure to arrive with enthusiasm. Preparation will give you confidence and confidence is attractive. When you walk in ready to contribute and connect, people can feel it naturally gravitate toward your energy. That energy you bring will set the tone and make you more memorable.
2. Focus on connection, not collection
One of the key networking tips I’ve learned is to treat networking as relationship-building, not contact-collecting. When you focus on truly getting to know someone, approaching the conversation with curiosity rather than agenda, you move from flat small talk to meaningful conversation. Make sure to ask thoughtful, open-ended questions, inviting others to share more about themselves, their inspirations or goals. Be respectful. Listen actively, show curiosity, and let the interaction flow naturally. You will be surprised how quickly you will create a genuine connection.
3. Master the art of first impressions
In business or social settings, first impressions matter more than we realize. Before you even say a word, your attire, posture, expression, and energy communicate a message. Walk in calmly, maintain eye contact, smile naturally, and make sure your handshake is firm and not forceful. Keep in mind that firstimpressions don’t end when you leave. Follow up with a brief, thoughtful message mentioning something specific you discussed. In my own practice, I try to send that message within a day or two while the connection is still fresh. It’s a small gesture that leaves a lasting mark
4. Confidence comes from courtesy
True confidence in networking isn’t about being the most outgoing or loudest person in the room. It’s about being considerate and self-aware. Knowing how to introduce yourself gracefully, join or leave conversations smoothly, engage others with politeness and respect are key networking etiquette skillsand confidence boosters. When you focus on making others feel comfortable and valued during your interaction, you no longer worry about “what to say next”. Confidence truly grows from kindness and respect.
5. Keep the connection alive
Networking doesn’t end when the event does. The most successful professionals nurture their connections over time. Share useful resources, congratulate on achievements, or simply check in from time to time. It’s those small, genuine gestures that turn a brief encounter into a meaningful connection.
Professional or social networking is not about performance with perfect scripts or rehearsed lines. It’s about showing up as your best self. Showing up prepared, poised, and genuinely interested in others. The lessons I learned through my own training continue to remind me that etiquette isn’t about formality. It is about respect, confidence, and connection with others.
At The Etiquette Method, we teach these principles so you can walk into any professional setting feeling empowered to network effectively, build authentic relationships, and make a lasting positive impression.
